Social media at its finest.
Facebook has been a huge part of my journey this past year. Asking for advice on IVF, sharing exciting news, prayers, hard times, grief...we all know the story.
What surprises me is people that I grew up with who have become so different. I knew some would probably venture their own course, and they did. Others are very bitter towards a God they may have turned from but who I still very much have a relationship with. Friends who lost touch have become very trusted allies and prayers warriors and some people I grew up with are gone. Whether it was my doing or their's, they are off the friend list.
It's kind of very amazing and by amazing read sad, how people can change. Everyone has secrets, everyone has a time in their life they aren't proud of. No one goes around broadcasting these on fb bc who wants to show the ugly? In a world full of perfectly angled selfies to make your chin, chest and butt look their smallest, or biggest, whatever,
with the right filter, the status that is bloviating over how great life is when it doesn't take much to read between the lines of being on the edge of a breakdown. There's people that post too much, not enough, post mean stuff, passive aggressive stuff, enlightened stuff, feel good stuff. There are those who need prayer and trust those they are asking to know their heart and humility in asking that of someone.
But I also see all these people who know all these people and grew up with these people or just met those people. And the more people I meet the more I see that people aren't comfortable being comfortable with people anymore. Bc it's hard to hide your bad when all you're showing is your good. Til your friend posts a bad that may be about you or could be about the girl you heard about instead and then paranoia starts in.
Someone hurt my feelings? I'll show them, delete. Someone disagreed with my thoughts and my feelings on my page and then deletes me? Whhhaaaa. Just kidding, see ya.
Then you see families. You see friends. You know the dramas, you know the lies, you know who talks about who and it's hard to look people in the eye bc of all the crap that people talk and you don't want to be in the middle of any high school drama.
A handful of people make conscience decisions to put stuff out to hurt other people. I know good parents and I know some bad ones. I know great kids and I know not so great kids. I know really good people and I know attention seeking life suckers.
Welcome to Facebook.
It's a drama easily caught up in. People complain too much. Oh my gosh, it's November, people are way too flippin thankful. I can't believe she posted that. Why doesn't he ever post anything?
It's annoying. But it's also been a lifeline to a lot of very good people who I am thankful to have in my life. I get to see their struggles and pray them thru it, I get to rejoice in their good news, see their babies, their kids sports pictures, new houses, new hobbies. I get to laugh, I cry, sometimes I get angry or sucked into a debate. But it's all because of who I choose and allow into my life.
Some make me so happy. Others make me want to punch something. The apple doesn't always not only not fall from the same tree, sometimes it's so far off I'd swear there was an orange dropped off instead. How did that person come from that family? Bless their hearts that that's who they are stuck with. Good for them for doing better despite the family they had. Or bless the family for finally getting the rotten fruit smell off their hands of the crazy who has been trying to hold them back for too long.
Ramblings of a crazy person. The good and bad of social media. People don't know how to talk like we used to. Conversations get cut short bc you tell a story and they know the ending bc they saw it on fb. Someone else is sitting right beside a friend having a grand ole time having no idea how badly they've been bashed the day before.
Facebook brings people together. And complicates the crap out it.
I'm thankful for the friends,
I'm thankful for the family, I'm thankful for the prayers and encouragement. I'm trying to leave the rest behind. Deleting the obnoxious, the mean, the nosy and the rude.
It's time to get my life back to a simpler way of living.